Total unpopular opinion but:
Way to support your man, Pepper. Walk out on him when he’s in the middle of a ptsd attack. ……Yeah, that’ll show him how much you love him.
Not so unpopular. I had to close my eyes it was so painful. My friend had to leave the theater. I’m pretty much still feeling nauseous over this movie.
Okay, I have to say this, because it’s really starting to bother me that I haven’t seen a counter-response to this. As a person who does have anxiety, and panic attacks, this is a thing I feel like people don’t pay attention to about the whole ‘providing support for those with mental health issues:’ you have to take care of yourself first in order to be any good as a support system to another person. You can’t drain yourself, or put yourself in danger, to take care of another. It will always backfire and breed resentment, especially if they’re being reckless. Tony was being reckless with the things he was creating (I suspect this was part of why he blew up the suits at the end). Pepper was attacked by the faulty suit. Through the entire movie we were shown that the nanotech suit was not stable, and in Tony’s sleep, it responded to Pepper as if she were a threat to him. If he hadn’t woken up when she screamed it would have continued to do so, and we (and Pepper) know exactly just what that can entail. He could have killed her in his sleep. Before I saw the movie, based on these posts I honestly thought she’d just gone “lol sorry Tony gotta have my beauty sleep” and peaced out but that is not what happened: she was literally attacked by the suit, had a (completely understandable) freak-out of her own, and left, because she felt unsafe. Did it suck? Yes. But it isn’t Pepper’s job as a SO, or any other part of Tony’s life, to keep herself in a position where she feels unsafe in order to be supportive. That isn’t what supporting someone who struggles with mental health is about.
I actually really liked this aspect of the movie: it portrayed Tony’s PTSD as a genuine struggle for both of them without placing blame on either party for those difficulties. Tony had every right to need help in this moment, and Pepper had every right to leave a situation where she felt unsafe. Sometimes situations are just shitty. This was one of them. That’s why it was hard to watch — because it was real. It was meant to be.